I recently had my birthday, and my wonderful kith and kin were on hand to ensure I had a good time on my birthday. After the day’s jamborees and merry-making were over, however, I withdrew to a solitary place to take stock of what I have achieved so far and meditate on where my life is headed.
Is my life where I had envisioned it to be seven years ago? Do I really want to make a living out of the course I’m studying on campus? What exactly is my purpose in life? What’s my life going to be like in 10 years?
At our point in life, we are on the cusp whereby most of us have got no clue what to do with our lives. We look at our peers achieving milestones and wonder if our lives will ever turn out like theirs. Even as we stand at the graduation squares with gowns and caps on, we’re still lost in finding ourselves. The uncertainty persists even after we get our first jobs, where we agonise on what to do or not to do and whether we are making the right life choices. Between the ages of 18 and 27, we change our career aspirations more than we change our hairstyles.
The woolliness and insecurities regarding what the future holds can be antagonising to the mind. If one is not careful, they may easily sink into a pool of depression, erroneously believing that they are not talented and serve no specific purpose in life.
I would say what fuels the problem is the concept that teaches we are each designed for one specific higher purpose and our mission in life is to find it. If by the time we’re finishing school we haven’t yet discovered that singular purpose, we end up getting the sensation like we have no sense of direction.
I would dissuade you from waiting around for a miracle to reveal your purpose. Instead, think of what you can do right now with your time to give life more significance. Instead of watching Scandal all day looking to discover your passion, I challenge you to go out there and let that passion find you. Passion is the result of an action, not the cause of it.
Join a dancing class, learn a new skill, take up that job that you think you’re not qualified for and network with new friends. It is in these immediate steps that you will discover your destiny because sometimes we don’t really know how we feel about an activity until we actually try it.
No matter how hard you try, you can never figure out the future because the world is constantly changing. It will suit you better if you instead concentrate your energy on what you can do right now.
Someday, everything will make sense. But for now, it pays to smile and keep a cool head through the confusion. And remember, you are not the only one who is trying to figure out life. Everyone goes through that stage.