NB: This piece is best read while smiling
“Be happy in the Lord, and He shall give you all the desires of your heart.” That is just but one of King David’s numerous nuggets of wisdom, coming from Psalms 37:4. Here, David debugs one of the misconceptions that have dogged Christian life for years. Many devout Christians erroneously hold on to the belief that just because we should be Christ-like, we are to lead a life that’s full of gloom and suffering. The truth, however, is quite the opposite. I combed over acres of Bible verses and I discovered that Jesus actually wants us to live a life full of fulfillment. In Psalms 16:11, David sheds more light when he explains that in the Lord’s presence, there’s fullness of joy and pleasures forever.
Happiness begets happiness, opportunity, and lots of luck. Sorrow begets nothing but more sorrow and misfortunes. Nobody likes a person who is ever grumpy, so you better be a jovial soul. Research has linked stressful lives to so many maladies that it would take volumes of books to document them all. Yet, some of us still choose to live in distress and grief, leading ourselves to early graves.
It is not enough to feel just okay. Feeling okay is not feeling good. The Lord wants us to rejoice. If you’re just feeling average, then your life will be just average. You ought to be happy, joyful excited, enthusiastic and passionate.
So then, how do we get ourselves to be happy? Let’s begin by professing cheerfulness. You probably know that what you say has a great effect on the unfolding of your life. Happiness too, is no different. Take my example for instance. Whenever someone asks me how my day is, I always reply the same way: “My day is awesome! Couldn’t have been better!” That way I attract more joy into my day, because what you say is what you become. Ease up on the criticism too, and put more effort into giving compliments. Delete from your lexicon words like terrible, awful, disgusting and horrible. Replace them with more of fantastic, amazing, wonderful, awesome and fabulous; then thank me later.
You also need to train yourself on how to take charge of your feelings and deliberately amplify them. Revel happiness by intensifying good moments and milking them dry, try to feel as happy as you can. In her book Secret The Power, best-selling author Rhonda Byrne says you should ensure your good feelings outweigh your negative thoughts by using the fifty plus one percentage rule. Remember the rule from the elections? The reason for this is that feeling good by 50% + 1 will attract more goodness to you. Rhonda says, “As you begin your day and you’re feeling happy, while you keep feeling happy, your day will be great! But if you begin your day in a bad mood, and you do nothing to change it, your day will not be great at all.”
You may say, “Jones, every time I try to be happy something just crops up and ruins my joy.” Well, I understand that unpleasant stuff happen to all of us. You’re late for a meeting, and then you come face to face with the mother of all traffic jams. Your partner frustrates you. The landlord nags to death because your rent is late. Your boss is always getting on your nerves. You’re broke. Is it really possible to maintain a jovial attitude in such situations? Yes.
The strength of men is measured by how they react in adversity. The Bible outlines that just like Christ did, we too, will encounter difficult circumstances. 1 Peter 4:13 tells us to rejoice in the Lord, in as much as we are partakers of Christ’s suffering. Philippians 4:6 advices us never to be anxious in any situation. It is not what happens to you, but how you react to it that matters. After all, happiness is in your heart, not in the circumstances.
Another fatal mistake that many people make is to think that they’ll only be happy once they achieve something. “I’ll be happy when I get a pay rise.” “I’ll be happier if I just found a boyfriend”. “If only I had a thousand bob more in my pocket…” Stop! You have your thinking all lop-sided, you’re reasoning upside down!
It has been proven beyond doubt that money does not necessarily bring happiness. You don’t wait till you have something more so you can be happy. If you live that way, your life will be filled with frustration. You need to be happy with your current salary before God grants you a raise. You need to love yourself first before you can fall into love with someone else. You need to thank God and be happy for the money you currently have before He rewards you with more. Success does not guarantee you happiness, but happiness surely guarantees you success. Author Jim Rohn says, “Learn to be happy with what you have while you pursue all that you want.”
Remember, happiness does not depend upon who you are or what you have. It depends solely on what you think. So, be transformed by the renewal of your mind. Let’s make the switch to happiness
By: Jowal Jones