DON’T BREAK UP! CONSIDER TAKING A BREAK INSTEAD.


You’re still deeply in love with the other person, but of late things are getting hazy and complicated. Your once passionate relationship now turns tumultuous, you’re even thinking of letting go. (Read: SIGNS THAT YOUR RELATIONSHIP IS COMING TO AN END) But wait, don’t call it quits just yet. Maybe all you need is some time apart from your partner to think things over.

Taking a break doesn’t mean that you’ll actually break up. In fact, a break can end up strengthening your relationship. The ideal time for taking a break is two weeks. But then, depending on the depth of the crisis your relationship is going through, you can opt to stay out of touch for a longer period.

If you and your partner have been faced with a major decision in your lives and somehow you just can’t compromise, maybe a break is what’s needed to help you both think through things. It might be that you want to take your relationship to another level (say engagement) but your partner just doesn’t see the reason why. Or perhaps it’s a disagreement about changing jobs, school or moving further away. You can both opt for a break to see if at the end of it you can agree and compromise.

break-from-relationshipDoes it feel like your relationship has begun losing it’s flavour, and things just feel flat and tasteless? Is the spark, romance and passion in your affair appear to be heading south? (Read:BRINGING THE SPARK BACK TO YOUR LOVE) If so, maybe you should consider taking a break. As they say, absence makes the heart grow fonder. If you stay apart, you’ll find out that you’ll actually begin to miss your beau and feelings for them will be reloaded. When you finally get together, your love will have been re-energised and full of passion.

Taking a break is a great way to confirm if what you feel for each other is indeed love. (Read: HOW DO YOU KNOW YOU’RE FALLING IN LOVE?) When it’s love, you’ll discover that whatever issues you were facing are not worth the time spent apart from your partner. You’ll miss them dearly.

But what if, during the break, you find out that you actually don’t miss that person? What if you discover that you actually enjoy being alone more than being with your partner? That’s a clear sign it might be time to get honest and quit the relationship. (Read: SIGNS THAT YOUR RELATIONSHIP IS COMING TO AN END)

Taking a break in a relationship is not an excuse to cheat on your partner, but rather a chance to see whether you can live without them. Maybe some time apart from your love is what you really need.

By:  Jowal Jones

Twitter: @JowalJones

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Jowal Jones is a columnist and correspondent with Kenya's leading newspaper, Daily Nation. He also dabbles in fiction works at times, hoping to be the next Stephen King. Sometimes he takes time out from writing to perfect his deer-dancing and goat-screaming skills.